A.R.C Triangle
A.R.C are the letters that define Affinity, Reality and Communication!
These three letters are always linked together in our lives. They form a triangle.
And you are using this triangle every day in your life, your couple, with your kids and fellows in in work.
The TRIANGLE OF A.R.C. is the keystone of living associations. This triangle is the common denominator of all life's activities.
The first vertex of the triangle is called AFFINITY.
The basic definition of affinity is "the consideration of distance, whether good or bad". Total affinity is basically the ability to occupy the same space as something else.
The word affinity here means "love, affection or any other emotional attitude". It is conceivable that affinity has many facets. Affinity is a variable quality. Here, affinity is used in the sense of "degree of affection".
The second vertex of the triangle is REALITY.
Reality can be defined as 'what seems to be'. Reality is basically agreement. What we agree on as real is real.
The third vertex of the triangle is COMMUNICATION.
In terms of understanding what human relationships in this universe are composed of, communication is more important than the other two vertices of the triangle. Communication is the universal solvent (it dissolves everything).
THE TRIANGLE
The interdependence of the points of this triangle becomes immediately apparent when we ask, "Have you ever tried to talk to an angry man?" In the absence of a high degree of affection and in the absence of a basis for agreement, there is no communication. Without communication and without a basis of emotional reaction, there can be no reality. Without a basis of agreement and communication, there can be no affinity. Thus we call these three things a triangle. If there are no two vertices of a triangle, there can be no third vertex. If one of the vertices of the triangle is desired, the other two must be included.
The triangle is conceived as being very large at the level of serenity and completely condensed at the level of matter. Thus, to represent a scale that is usable, a large triangle is drawn at the high end of the scale and smaller and smaller triangles are drawn as you go down, eventually becoming one point at the bottom.
Affinity, reality and communication are the basis of the Scientology Tone Scale, which predicts human behaviour.
As has been noted before the triangle is not an equilateral triangle (with equal sides). Affinity and reality are much less important than communication.
We could say that the triangle begins with communication, which gives rise to affinity and reality.
A-R-C constitute UNDERSTANDING.
If you want to pursue a healthy and intelligent communication with someone, there must be a basis of agreement, there must be some affection for the person and then communication can occur.
So we can see that simply "talking" and "writing" in a haphazard way, without knowing the above, would not necessarily constitute communication. Communication is essentially "something that is sent and that is received".
Both the intention to send and the intention to receive must be present, to some extent, before true communication can take place. Therefore, there could be situations that would appear to be communications, but are not.
The A-R-C triangle, if properly understood, is an extremely useful tool or weapon in human relationships. For example, according to the laws of the A-R-C triangle, a communication, in order to be received, must approach the affinity level of the person to whom it is intended. As people move down the tone scale, it becomes harder and harder to communicate with them, and the things they will agree on will become more and more solid. This is how at the top of the scale we have friendly discussion and at the bottom, war. When the level of affinity is hate, agreement is solid matter, and communication ... bullets.
The thing to remember is that every day you use it the right way or incorrectly. Now you have the knowledge, it's up to you to put it into practice.
